Question. I am a 33-year-old woman. My breasts become very stiff and painful during my period. Should I contact a doctor for this? Please reply.

Answer. Your doctor can prescribe a tablet which decreases the salt in your body by passing it out during urination. This will reduce the congestion in your breasts. You may have also noticed greater irritability during this period. Hopefully this will also be checked.

Question. I am an 18-year-old woman. Since two-three months I have noticed a lump in my right breast. Its size has also increased considerably since. My doctor says this is normal at my age. However, I do know that breast cancer can occur at my age too. I have had an abortion. Could the lump be a result of that? Please guide me.

Answer. A breast lump can occur after an abortion. You are right to be concerned. See a gynaecologist for a detailed examination.

Question. I am 25 years old and I got married five years ago. We have two sons but now my husband is not interested in sex. Since the past three years we have been having sex only once a fortnight. Though he looks after me very well, I am confused. I fear that he may be having an affair. Help me.

Answer. Suspicion sends a marriage on the rocks. Since he is good with you, when you have some quiet time together, tell him you have a great desire to be near him more often. Also ask yourself how you could be more attractive to him so he has no reason to look elsewhere. If you are more sexually aroused, why not self stimulate yourself to orgasm.

Question. I have just started enjoying sex with my husband after 10 years of marriage. I don’t like to have sex everyday whereas he expects us to do it in the daytime too when the kids and maids are around. He watches a lot of porn and expects similar behaviour from me. Watching porn repulses me, creating quarrels in our otherwise happy marriage. Do I need counselling?

Answer. Stolen sweets taste best, so why not enjoy the naughty moments during the day. Pretence is often used by a wife to keep her husband happy. If you do not like to do what he wants then tell him, but occasionally oblige him too. In turn, you might start enjoying yourself even more. Quarrels get in the way of good sex.

Question. I am a 30-year-old married man. I’ve seen sticky things coming out of my penis after urination. After sex I experience inflammation around my penis. Sometimes my semen is yellow. Also, I have no real desire to have sex and I feel week all the time. Please help.

Answer. Get your urine examined. Try a six-week course of Bangshill (Alarsin) tablets; twice a day with milk, on an empty stomach. See a doctor who may check for symptoms of depression.

Question. I am a 26-year-old woman. My partner and I try having sex, but during the act, my vagina doesn’t expand. He tries to arouse me in all possible ways, but we always end up indulging only in foreplay. We do not enjoy the intercourse part. How do we deal with this problem? Please reply.

Answer. Insert a finger into the vagina every day, starting from the smallest to the thumb. After being comfortable, insert two fingers.

Question. I recently underwent circumcision. How long should I wait before getting back to sex? Any precautions that I must take during intercourse? Please reply.

Answer.Your doctor should have told you so. Having sex after 15 days should be okay.

Question. During masturbation, I have a habit of roughly rubbing my vagina and pressing my clitoris. Will my hymen rupture due to this habit? Will I face sex problems later? Please reply.

Answer. Your habit won’t impact your hymen as it’s known to rupture via cycling, swimming etc. There’s no problem unless your husband gets suspicious (in case a slight bleeding does not take place). The only other problem is that in the future, you may enjoy this habit over intercourse.

Question. My partner was diagnosed for Herpes. It’s a type-2 virus. The infection is in her lower back region. Few days ago, we kissed and had oral sex. We took enough precaution to cover the infection with cotton and bandages. She has been regular with her medication. She didn’t remove her clothes during the act. Can the virus be transferred via the saliva? We chose not to have sex despite having condoms. Will it affect our child when my partner conceives? She does not have genital herpes. Please reply.

Answer. You have taken adequate precautions. I suggest you wait till the herpes subsides. There is no reason for genital herpes to occur.

Question. Can excessive masturbation cause prostrate cancer later? Can masturbation cause pimples? Please reply.

Answer. The answer to both your queries is no.